作者简介

Dr Irvin Yalom is an emeritus professor of psychiatry at Stanford University and the author of many books, including Creatures of a Day and the bestselling Love’s Executioner. He and his wife, the author Marilyn Yalom, live in Palo Alto, California.
Marilyn Yalom is a senior scholar at the Clayman Institute for Gender Research at Stanford University, and the author of A History of the Wife, among other books. She lives in Palo Alto, CA, with her husband, Irvin.

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'Wise, beautiful, heartbreaking, raw' The Times

'A beacon of hope to all of us who will be bereaved' Kathryn Mannix

'An unforgettable and achingly beautiful story of enduring love' Lori Gottleib

Internationally renowned psychiatrist and author Irvin Yalom has devoted his career to counselling those suffering from anxiety and grief. But never had he faced the need to counsel himself until his wife, esteemed feminist author Marilyn Yalom, was diagnosed with cancer. In A MATTER OF DEATH AND LIFE, Marilyn and Irvin share how they took on profound new struggles: Marilyn to die a good death, Irvin to live on without her.

In alternating accounts of their last months together and Irvin's first months alone, they offer us a rare window into coping with death and the loss of one's beloved. The Yaloms had rare blessings - a loving family, a beautiful home, a large circle of friends, avid readers around the world, and a long, fulfilling marriage - but they faced death as we all do. With the candour and wisdom of those who have thought deeply and loved well, they investigate universal questions of intimacy, love, and grief.

Informed by two lifetimes of experience, A MATTER OF DEATH AND LIFE offers poignant insights and solace to all those seeking to fight despair in the face of death, so that they can live meaningfully.


Dr Irvin Yalom is an emeritus professor of psychiatry at Stanford University and the author of many books, including Creatures of a Day and the bestselling Love’s Executioner. He and his wife, the author Marilyn Yalom, live in Palo Alto, California.

Marilyn Yalom is a senior scholar at the Clayman Institute for Gender Research at Stanford University, and the author of A History...

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  • Dorian
    很是羡慕他们二人的爱情,这本书最宝贵的是让我看到了作者凡人的一面,曾经读亚隆,把他当做荣格理论中那个智慧的老人,但亚隆作为心理学大师也会想要和爱人分享,也会想念,也会脆弱,也会痛苦。在面临巨大的丧失后,还能够继续生活。焦虑与恐惧是真的真的没办法的,总要经历的。他没有背叛来访者与读者,这本书依旧有着安慰的力量。03-14
  • 青山神妖
    这本书断断续续读了好几个月,集中读完是在近期经历了亲人去世、我无法回去、又独自过新年、基金写不出来、工作前途渺茫、得了一场重感冒的时候。但这并不是能够给人抚慰的书。我觉得亚隆和妻子的生活不具有可复制性。虽然经历了妻子的去世,他依然是舒适的幸福的被家人环绕的人。这本书再一次向我展示了亚隆的自恋,他毫不避讳地坦诚自己在并不适合时依然坚持会见来访,因为与来访见面、感到自己被需要,极大地抚慰了他自己。此外,对自己以前作品的大段复述和引用,在他的其他作品里也反复出现,是否也反映了他的自恋呢。还有对玛丽莲,他几乎有点病态的依恋和依赖,以及最后玛丽莲像抱儿子一样环抱着他,不得不让我觉得这场完美婚姻背后也许充满了从未被直面的冲突和嫉恨。最后,玛丽莲真的很伟大,她对家庭和事业的付出想必远超亚隆所写所感。02-15
  • clara
    Grief给活着的人提出了两个问题:一、如何面对一个没有亡者的世界;二、如何看待自己的死亡,亚隆都回答了,言辞真挚,感人至深。12-23
  • zhangyl
    偶尔还是有一些深刻的见解05-31
  • 深情的艾老师
    Mourning is the price we pay for having the courage to love others.12-06

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