作者简介

Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it is in this context, while working with mothers and children in a therapeutic nursery, that he first discovered the power of attachment theory. His clinical work together with his deep understanding of the brain from a neuroscientist's perspective contribute to his appreciation of attachment theory and its remarkable effectiveness in helping to heal patients. Amir lives in New York City. Rachel Heller, M.A. studied at Columbia University with some of the most prominent scholars in the field of social psychology. She now works with families and couples as a psychologist in private practice. Rachel lives in Israel.

内容简介

We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

*Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back

*Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

*Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.


Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it...

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  • 神秘数字53
    不同意作者的分类。焦虑型和回避型在同一个人身上是可以切换的,关键就看你多在乎对方了。06-17
  • Jus
    可以skim through的一本书 用自己的经历和书上的道理cross reference 还蛮豁然开朗的。不过感情这回事终究知难行易 但清楚意识到自己是secure型还挺增加自信心&感恩爸妈的。但像李银河老师所说 爱情终究还是小概率幸运事件 那作为一个hopeless romantic 只能尽量提升自我/认清自己 当那个人出现的时候 不至于因为自己的低情商和personal mess而毁了珍贵的亲密关系11-07
  • Ray
    书的主题是非常有价值的,但是我觉得内容略显单薄。简而言之,人有两大类,有安全感的和缺乏安全感的。缺乏安全感的人又有两类表象:焦虑性,倾向于依赖别人,害怕孤独;独狼型(男女皆有),可能因为以前被信任的人伤害过,不愿意与人走近,很多人渣都是独狼型人格(反之不成立)。人的类别属性相对稳定,75%的人在4年时间内都不会发生变化。书里推荐大家都跟安全型人格谈恋爱,并且指出大部分的肥皂剧都是焦虑性和独狼型人格恋爱造成的。另外一点,书里提倡大家明确自己的情感需求,并且以非情绪化的方式把这个需求沟通出来。这本书以恋爱婚姻为主了,但是很多原则对交友甚至父母与子女沟通都有价值,可惜这本书完全没有谈到,有点可惜。07-14
  • Ann
    这书对以前的我估计挺有帮助的,不过现在听下来觉得没什么新知识。11-21
  • 听说
    其实还是挺有道理的。结论就是:如果你是正常人就要找正常人不要妄想能拯救天生琼瑶命的;如果你不正常,那就更要找个正常的人把你拉回来。02-16

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