>> the givers at the top also give to themselves. One way to do that is to say, “I need time by myself to regroup, think, figure things out.”09-02
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是第三遍复习幸福课的内容了03-09
鲸鲸
很受益的一句: "A friend we should be looking for is not a much of concession... rather let him be forever a sort of beautiful enemy untamable, devoutly revered, ...instead of trivial convenience we experience meaningful inconvenience."01-15
QuietAmbassa
2.5 The only takeaway from this read: If I say don’t think of a pink elephant u gon think about a pink elephant. Same thing if u tell urself don’t panic don’t be anxious u gon panic n be anxious. Instead acknowledge that u r human even try to say can I feel more anxious. That’s gonna calm u down. 09-24
姜小白
作者的母语是希伯来语，又特别喜欢《道德经》，希望解决困扰自己的问题对积极心理学产生兴趣，三十年的研究与教学，如此这般此书读来温存亲切。relational wellbeing写的最好，积极心理学本身就是背靠阿德勒学派，注重人际关系，从对外的赋予中寻找更高一层的意义。讲理，有一个前提，道理本身已经在读者心中存在，才能听讲后懂，否则会进入“鸡汤、一句话就能讲清偏要写本书”的ego。happy life不可企及，这是生命的常态，happier才是正解，如此简单明白的道理，读完竟然有豁然开朗的感觉，足见其narrative是教学训练出来的communication。关于友谊的攀比竞争，竟然比the courage to be disliked那个点更好，camaraderie略显小气。08-14
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